In our previous post, while talking about some of the dating struggles that lesbians who come out late in life might face, I wanted to be clear about one thing in particular: Coming out late in life doesn’t mean that you have to settle. Actually, that goes for everyone. Accepting a situation is not the

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Let’s talk about coming out later in life and some of the challenges. When Pam and I met, I was almost 35. To date, Pam has been my longest-term relationship with a woman. However, I wouldn’t categorize myself as someone who came out late in life. I’ve always known who I was; I just seldom

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Alright, so we in the lesbian community are a minority of the population. There are only so many lesbian/queer/bi/don’t-label-me individuals in the world. There are only so many such individuals in this country. Only so many of a certain race, ethnicity or religious background. Only so many who are single and looking. Only so many

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Whenever Pam and I ask people about their challenges to finding that special someone, a lot of what we hear about is the struggle to find the one that “fits.” But what does it mean to “fit?” Is the right fit someone who is a lot like you? Or is it someone who is nothing

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Last week, I wrote to you about the transitions that can happen during the course of a relationship. This week, let’s take a little bit of a step back and ask whether you are really ready for a long-term relationship. It’s something that a lot of single folks claim they want. We live in a

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