I’ve been thinking about risk taking. Let the universe tell it, women are not big risk takers. I guess I can’t argue with that too much. There’s probably a grain of truth to it.
But we do take risks. We just take calculated risks.
So this risk I took was probably the biggest one I’d taken to that point in my life.
The biggest risk I took was when I quit my job in Texas and moved all the way to New Jersey to be with a woman whom I had known for just two years.
I chose to get out of my comfort zone, where I’d decided to set up shop, maybe for the rest of my life.
I decided to take the risk because love that is a true fit for you doesn’t come around as often as we’d like it to.
That’s not to say that I wasn’t worried though.
I was actually really scared about what this meant for my career. It was an entirely new part of the country. Being a midwestern girl, I was worried that I wouldn’t fit in.
I don’t make friends easily, so I was apprehensive about leaving my social network behind.
So what happened after I took the risk?
Well, one of them you know. Pam and I were married two years later.
But a few other things happened after I took this risk too.
I discovered a career path that I would never have considered before.
I learned pretty quickly how to build new social networks.
Being exposed to new people gave me new interests – like traveling the world
Because I took a chance and left my established personal and professional life, I discovered how making a change in one part of your life – even if it feels like you’re diminishing some part of it – can actually make everything that much better.
…building a new relationship isn’t always going to be flowers and sangria.
I shared this with you because I wanted you to know that building a new relationship isn’t always going to be flowers and sangria. It can require that you step out on a limb and take chances that you never thought you’d take. But if it’s the right one, it’s always worth it!
The same goes for you in your search for the relationship that you’ve always desired.
We started out halfway across the country from each other, and today we have a marriage that we value and that we work at every day. And sometimes to get to this side, you may have to take a risk – even if just a calculated one.
What about you?
Are there risks that you’re thinking about taking to help you in your quest to find that special woman? If not, what's holding you back. Let us know.